Most people start out making this very simple mistake:
They try to change their spouses's mind about divorce.
But here’s the thing that every person has to learn before they can make any progress in the separation:
You Can Save your Marriage, Even If You Are
The Only One Trying
Let Me Teach You The Roadmap That Has Helped Over 1,000+ Men and Women Save Their Marriages and Start Improving Their Relationship With Your Spouse…
Let's start with the good news... Yes, you can still save your marriage
Even if they are having an affair.
Even if they have moved out.
Even if you don’t recognize the person you married.
“Is there still a chance they will come back?” is one of the most common questions I get.
I’ll tell you right now… I don’t know your story, I don’t know your situation, but there is a 99.9% chance the answer to that question is YES.
Yes, there is still a chance to get your spouse back.
… Even if you’re the only one trying.
Trust me, I’ve seen people save their marriages even when all hope seems lost.
I’ve seen people save their marriages on the DAY they signed divorce papers.
And I’ve seen this sort of miracle story happen too many times to give up hope, no matter how bad things might look like now.
"We spent an entire weekend together"
"The day that I invited my husband to come talk to me, I had a strange feeling that something was going to happen. When he walked into the restaurant, when he walked right up to me and gave me the biggest and strongest hug, that's when I knew that we were on the road back. He told me it had not gone unnoticed that I had really stepped up and was being the wife he knew I was. We spent an entire weekend together and really fell back in love."
- Audrey
How NOT TO Change Their Mind About Leaving:
The reason that most people feel lost or stuck as they try to save their marriage is because they are putting all of their thoughts, all of their effort, every ounce of energy into trying to change something that is fundamentally outside of their control!
If you’re like most people, you’ve already tried all the things that revolve around YOUR SPOUSE and changing THEIR mind.
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Convincing them with logic
The decision to leave the marriage is an emotional one, not a logical one. Your spouse is going to do what they need to do, based on what they feel will make them happiest. Your logical argument just sounds like a telemarketer's sales pitch.
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Begging for "one more chance"
And neither will repeated apologies. They know that your begging is just your fear talking, not your love. They already knew this would hurt you and decided to do it anyways... Shoving your pain in their face hoping it will change their mind just sets you up for rejection.
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Guilt-tripping them
I don't care if it's about finances, kids, or the sanctity of marriage. They know there's going to be consequences and they have already decided that those consequences are worth getting out of the marriage for.
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Repeatedly asking them to explain her feelings
They know that this is your way of trying to make them justify their decision to you. Whether they owe you an explanation or not isn't about what's right or fair - if they don't want to open up, then trying to make them will build their walls higher.
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Promising that you will change
They will tell themselves that it's too little, too late, or that your positive changes will only last until they have come back to the marriage. If you've made promises like that before, then it's even less likely they will believe your promises to change.
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Demanding that you both see a counselor
Marriage counseling does not have a very high success rate with mixed agenda couples. In other words, when one spouse wants out, even a good pro-marriage counselor won't have high odds of saving the marriage. There are plenty of pro-divorce, pro-one gender counselors out there who would sooner tell your spouse to "seek their truth" than to consider working on the marriage.
You cannot control your spouse!
Sounds obvious, right?
And yet, have you tried any of the methods on the list above?
Your Spouse Only Comes Back When They WANT To Come Back
The day that your spouses find themselves falling back in love with you will be the day they make an independent, free decision to come back to the marriage.
Therefore, your end goal is to show your spouse the sort of person and partner that they WANT to rebuild a relationship with.
INTRODUCING...
THE FORTIFIED SPOUSE
THE FORTIFIED SPOUSE IS BASED ON
FOUR MAIN PILLARS
OBTAIN NEW SKILLS
We have not been taught in school or in life how to be a great partner. We give you those very tools YOU DO NEED to improve communication, to listen with intent, to appreciate your spouse, to give you the knowledge of trust, among many many other skills needed to have a thriving marriage, to restore trust so you can restore your marriage.
INNER CONFIDENCE
Most people go into "Panic Mode", become extremely Desperate and Needy in a marriage crisis. This only repels your spouse more. It is imperative that you build your confidence so you become a Fortified Spouse and act from an empowered place. We teach you to build "INNER" Confidence so you are no longer Co-Dependent on your spouse but independent of them.
HAVE THE CORRECT PERSPECTIVE
There are some very important differences between men and women. It is imperative to understand their essential needs and "why" they act in a certain way and do things that you would do differently. This new perspective will allow you to see them for who they really are, their "true DNA", and help you give them the Emotional Security they NEED to build trust and eventually build a Deeper Connection.
ELIMINATE EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS AND INSECURITIES
We all have triggers and insecurities. It is vital that we deal with them at the root (insecurity) so that we are less emotionally triggered by our spouse and in life in general. This will allow you to always act/react from a place of high emotional intelligence. If we continue to react emotionally due to being triggered, then all the new tools, perspective and confidence become useless.
We have an 85% Success Rates in Restoring Broken Marriages.
Some from very difficult places where there were affairs, where divorce papers have already been serviced, and even after a divorce.
No other program/ coach has this Success Rate.
Video Testimonials
“The communication with my wife was always screaming. This program has allowed me to connect with my feelings. I am happy with my wife and family. It has happened tremendously fast. The tools I have learned have not only help me with my wife and family but at my work as a manager.”
“When I started the program, my husband and I had just separated. We had had counseling sessions in the past and we were not very happy with them. The program significantly impacted our marriage even though I was the only one using the program. I highly recommend the program.”
“9 months ago, my wife informed me she no longer wanted to continue our relationship after 27 years. I did not know how unhappy my wife had become. Realizing I had ran out of options I joined the program and followed the instructions. And I not only became the husband she had always wanted but I watched her transform into the wife I had always wanted.”
“I thought everything was going well and suddenly, she said she did not love me anymore and wanted a divorce. I lost control of my emotions. I did not know what to do. I joined the program; bought me some time and I was able to get a second chance. And now we have a deeper connection, and our marriage is thriving.”
“My husband and I got a divorce, and I was pregnant, and I needed help, marriage help. And marriage therapy did not help. He wasn’t even responding. I joined and the program is amazing. A year after my daughter was born, we reconciled. We use the program even to this day.”
“This guy really knows what he is talking about. It’s like you are in my head. My wife was not talking to me or texting me. Now she has been calling me and texting me and the other day showed and asked me if I wanted to get some food. Just applying some little things, things really turn around.”
“My husband started cheating 1 month before our child was born and I was broken. A part of me had died. I did not know what to do. I joined the program on my last leg of hope. It has made a huge difference in my life. I started working improving on me and bringing that into the marriage. I understand what my husband needed. He left the other women and is focusing on our family and our future. It is an amazing feeling spending my life with the love of my life.”
“I have been married 25 years and the last years were very rocky. I was talking to a stranger; it was a terrible feeling. I did not know what to do. My wife brought up the D word, divorce. I cried many nights. I got some hope, what a different feeling. The best thing is how we are able to communicate specifically in conflict. Once she got hope we were off and running.”
“It has been over 2 years since my husband left after 30+ years of marriage. In the program for 1 month and truly see remarkable difference in myself. My husband sees that in me. It helps me with communication to understand him and the complications of the communications in our relationship. I cannot speak highly enough about the program. My husband is softening up, misses me, and this is huge and I know I have a marriage restore coming”.
“Things are going really well between my wife and me. This program just works. My wife had told me that she was not in love with me anymore. I was alone and coping in all the wrong ways. A couple of weeks into the program I learned how to change my wife’s mind. I am not divorced and understand her and make her feel loved.”
“I found myself in a place where I was fearful and desperate. My husband was stonewalling and threatening divorce. I needed help. I started looking at myself and how I contributed to the problems. There is no reason why you cannot be happy despite the problems in a relationship. I am really grateful for the program because I feel stronger and have tools and knowledge to move forward in this relationship.”
“It never struck me that we were headed for divorce. I started feeling depressed. She seemed cold and distant. The structure of the coaching was different. Women think way differently then men and using male logic only makes things worse. It took us from the train tracks of divorce. Now we are doing more things together. It has been a super wonderful process.”
“My mindset prior to the course was I did not know what to do and was desperate. Anything I tried did not work. Communication was hit and miss with my husband. I reacted badly. 3-4 months of doing the course made the difference. There is now a light at the end of the tunnel. It is quite good now. We are working on our issues and getting results.“
“We grew apart and have been separated for 3 months. We spoke with church and friends and family, which did more damage. I joined the program because I wanted to save my marriage. Within 2 weeks the change started to become rapid and we started spending time together. We decided we are going to make this work. We have purchased a house together.”
“This has helped me in all parts of life not just the relationship part. I went into it thinking even if it does not work out, I will be a better person. Without this program I would not be where I am. I never wanted to have regrets. But it worked and I was really surprised by the reaction I got from him. Now it is very different in the best way possible.”
"She was gone. She came back."
Just wanted to say thank you. Your course helped me get through a dark time. She was gone. She came back. We went to Europe. We’re buying a new house. We are working on our relationship. God is good. I thank him for making you a means for knowledge to improve myself.
- Adrian
About Arturo Henriquez
Arturo is a marriage coach that helps women and men who are in a Marriage Crisis, going through "I don't Love You Anymore", Separation, Divorce, and/or Affairs to Save Their Marriages by Saving Themselves, which gives them the Highest Probability of saving their marriage.
To date, he has coached, advised or personally helped over 1,000+ people going through a Marriage Crisis.
Coming from a place of personal experience, 7+ years ago he shifted his career to help other people who are battling to Save their marriages and Restore themselves as people.
Arturo has 3 Master's degrees and is certified in Relationship Therapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Cognitive Therapy (CB) and a Life Coach.
He is a firm believer that, despite common beliefs, you CAN renew your failing marriage WITHOUT months or years of expensive therapy, counseling, and ‘self-help’ books.
In his prior life, he has had over two and a half decades of real-life, in-the-trenches business experience as a Serial Entrepreneur and C-Level Executive. As a Serial Entrepreneur, I have started, bought and sold over 55+ companies across 18 different industries over the past 25+ years and raised over $100s of millions of dollars in debt and equity from banks, venture capitalists and investors.
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"We finally turned the corner..."
I'd been seeing lots of good signs of my husband leaning in after what seemed like a really long stalemate and months of being in limbo. Well, it all culminated and we finally turned the corner... We had a great family day enjoying Memorial Day. He went to the gym later and asked me to send him some sexy texts while at the gym. I did and he liked it. Last night we had sex again...the first time in forever we did it two nights in a row... With him being fully on board and participating in our marriage coaching and learning these new tools with me on how to be better partners I truly believe we'll have what it takes to stand the test of time. This has been one hell of a journey, but by God it was a necessary one. I'm a better person for it and I believe my marriage will be better for it. A lot of that is thanks to Arturo and this program.
- Laura
What Happens When You Finally
Focus On The Right Things?
Without The Fortified Spouse
❌ Frustrated because you can't figure
your spouse out
❌ You try to change their mind but end up
pushing them away
❌ They feel like it's what they want versus
what you want
❌ They resist conversations with you
because they know you're trying to
change their mind.
❌ Every conversation you have with them is
complete guess work
❌ You feel completely lost with no idea how
to approach your spouse
❌ It feels like no matter what you do, things
keep getting worse and worse
❌ Your spouse sees you as controlling,
manipulative and selfish
❌ They become more and more certain that
divorce is the right choice for them
With The Fortified Spouse
☑ Empowered because you finally figure
yourself out
☑ You are able to help them open up and
share their honest feelings with you
☑ They are surprised because you find
creative ways to get on the same team
☑ They let their guard down because they
stop seeing you as self-serving
☑ You are confident and no longer triggered
every time you talk to or see them
☑ You have a clear guideline for how you
should approach separation
☑ You finally get some positive moments
with your spouse, things finally start feeling
better
☑ Your spouse sees you as genuine, self
confident and selfless
☑ They start having doubts about whether
leaving the marriage is the right decision
Results in their own words...
When you stop trying to control the thing that’s most out of your control – your spouse– and put your energy instead into controlling and improving yourself, crazy things can happen.
- I’ve seen people finally land their dream job, or launch their dream business…
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Get in the best shape of their lives…
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Run marathons, climb mountains, conquer their goals…
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Rebuild broken relationships with their kids…
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Finally beat alcoholism or drug addiction…
And too many other achievements to list…
All WHILE going through a marriage crisis.
I mean, just think about that for a minute. Think about how incredible it would be to be able to look yourself in the mirror and KNOW in your gut that you are looking at the best “self” you’ve ever seen.
When you have that sort of confidence, that sort of self-assurance, it completely transforms the dynamic of the separation. You no longer *need* them to come back and they will feel that.
Once they believe that you truly don’t need them to come back in order for YOU to be happy, that’s when they can finally open their mind to the possibility of coming back. Because they will know that coming back won’t be because it’s what you want, but because it’s really and truly what THEY want.
Just read one of my all-time favorite success stories…
She tells me everyday she loves me...
Here are a list of things I’ve heard from my wife: (please read till the end)
- We are not compatible.
- I don’t think I was ever in love with you.
- We should have never gotten married in the first place, it felt forced.
- I just don’t find you attractive anymore.
- I love you but I’m not in love with you.
- I see you more as a best friend than a husband.
- There is no way we are ever getting back together.
- We will never work well together we’re too different.
- You don’t make me happy.
- I don’t see a future with us together.
- We’re getting a divorce and nothing you can do or change will change my mind.
Today, my wife and I are together. She tells me everyday she loves me. She’s done a full 180. We have sex on a regular basis. We talk we laugh she says we are happy, that she’s happy.
My point is take everything she says with a grain of salt. You will be fine with or without her. Just be the best version of yourself you can everyday. But, know you’ll be fine.
"Will this still work if..."
The program presents a system that will work for most people, but you’re not most people. You’re facing unique challenges in your separation. You don’t have time to invest in a course or marriage counseling that might not give you the tools YOU need to overcome the unique challenges you’re facing with your spouse.
If you’re facing any of the problems below, this WILL still work for you.
# I'm the only one trying to save my marriage
# They told me, "I love you, but I'm not in love with
you."
# They told me, "It's too little, too late."
# They already moved out
# They already filed for divorce
# We are already in mediation
# They are having an emotional affair
# They are having a physical affair
# I had an affair
# They are leaving because of an addiction which I
have now sought treatment for
# Their new friend group are all telling her to get
divorced
# We have already been separated for over a
year
# They ignore all attempts at communication
# I no longer recognize the person that I married
# Their family is telling them to get divorced
# We don't have kids
# We are a blended family with kids from a previous
marriage
# They are leaving because I'm too controlling
# They moved a long ways away
# I have very little contact with my spouse
# My spouse is completely cold, and will only talk
business
# They are dealing with mental health problems
# I think that they are going through a midlife crisis
# They say there is absolutely no way their feelings
will change
# Their new friend group are all telling them to get
divorced
# I was the one who originally asked for divorce
